And again, I don't regret the amount of money I lost, but I regret my naivety, I regret having trusted this person. And I still feel guilty today.
So you see, you really have to be careful, you have to find a balance between taking responsibility for learning, that's positive, and of course, staying productive. There's no point in feeling sorry for yourself for weeks or months, saying "ah I was too naive, I got taken in", because by doing that, you bring a lot of negative emotions. And that's what I was talking about last week, negative emotions have a huge impact.
if at no time did I say to myself "oh la la, I was too naive, I'm going to fall into depression, this is not going well at all", I never had such extreme thoughts, but despite everything, the fact of having this guilt, it sends a certain number of messages to my unconscious, to the non-conscious part of my brain which finally says to itself "well, you are naive, you are stupid". I don't think about it in a conscious way, but the risk is that my unconscious starts to think it because I feel this guilt deep down.
So to me, that's my struggle, the recurring struggle I was talking about in the title of this episode, that's it, it's finding the balance between the two. To find the balance between the two, I try to remember every day that I've always done my best. Today, I'm doing my best. Yesterday, I was doing my best. When I trusted that partner netherlands whatsapp number data who stole from me, I was doing my best. When I trusted that other partner to whom I lent money, I was doing my best. Maybe it was naive, so I have to protect myself in the future, but I was doing my best. And reminding yourself of that constantly, well, it allows you to let go and try to forget.
When I have negative thoughts on these subjects where I say to myself "Johan, you're too naive", I chase away these negative thoughts and I use them as motivation to tell myself: OK, I have to continue reading, I have to continue working, I have to continue developing, I have to continue learning in order to lose this slight naivety that I may have had, but this naivety has also served me because we always remember what doesn't work, but if I trusted 100 people, there are two who disappointed me. That means that everything else is positive. Because if I had been too cautious, if I had never trusted, well Français Authentique would not be where it is today. So we have to find the balance and ultimately look for the best and most balanced, the fairest between these two extremes.
And I intend to continue to trust, but to put in place a certain number of safeguards, as they say in French, that is to say to trust without losing control. It is something that is super super important and it is something that I have learned over time. So I will continue this fight.
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