which this time does not depend on others,

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And I realized that I had to let go and that for these things, which did not depend only on me, it was essential to be flexible, to do the best I could, but not to try to control everything. So today, if I am alone, I am punctual, that's for sure. My office is tidy, there are no things lying around. Everything I can do, I do, but everything that does not depend on me, I try to influence it, but I am flexible. And that is really really a key in fact, because otherwise we are stressed, we are unhappy always wanting to impose a certain discipline on everyone and feeling bad when this discipline is not 100% fulfilled, it is really counterproductive.

Another example, is organization. I have always liked to evolve, optimize my personal organization systems, whether it is on files, my way of organizing myself. And sometimes I will completely review a system and I want everything to be perfect.

So if I change tools, I will want to take everything I had in an old tool to put it in the new one and I do not accept that there are two places, I want to do things perfectly, I lose hours and lebanon whatsapp number data hours and hours, while the best solution is of course to be disciplined, precise, rigorous, but flexible and to accept having a main system and keeping some information in another system, for example.

It's not the most elegant, it's not the most rigorous, but it's clearly the most efficient and the least time-consuming. Something time-consuming is something that costs us a lot of time.

The same goes for perfectionism. In a lot of content, I was too much of a perfectionist. I would prepare content for hours, when it's OK to be spontaneous. The fact of overpreparing was because I was afraid of making mistakes, of being wrong, and so I spent more time than necessary, when by being more spontaneous, well that works too.

You have to accept that enough effort is enough, it's enough to do enough. You don't need to try to do more and more. In all cases, there is what we call diminishing returns, that is to say that I don't know if you want to prepare content for example, the first 30 minutes that you're going to invest, there's going to be a lot of yield, a lot of return, because during those 30 minutes, you're going to have the best ideas.

Then, if you add 30 minutes, well you will create much less, because what is best, you have already created it the 30 minutes before. So the second half hour, the second 30 minutes bring you much less than the first. And the more time you add, the lower the yield, the less you get with it. So if you spend 2 hours, the last 10 minutes, they are almost useless. This is what we call diminishing returns. You have to find the balance.

For that, there are tools that we call… for example, one of the tools is the Pareto law, 80/20, which tells us that roughly 80% of our results come from 20% of our efforts. So we really have to focus on the most important.

But the real meaning of my message today, the thing I want to share with you, the big key, is that you have to find a balance between on the one hand rules and discipline… I am a very disciplined person, I like to have strict rules, for example getting up at 5:30 for my routine etc. So that is the first part. But on the other hand, super important, you have to look for simplicity and flexibility, because without that, you have to force yourself and you can't force yourself in the long term. It's impossible.

If you try to force yourself, force yourself, all the time, to be disciplined all the time, to rely on discipline all the time, there will come a time when it will not work anymore. It could be in 3 months, 6 months, a year, 2 years. But if you want to do something really long term, it has to be simple and you have to be flexible.